HOW DO YOU GET SELFCARE WHILE GIVING OTHERS CARE Gillian’s read on “Rest in the storm” Kirk Byron Jones We look outwardly happy and successful but most of us suffer from inner pain, mostly because we are trying to do too much and trying to be all things for all people. This has effects in our families and the people we lead. We must learn to confess personal overload and confess insufficient self-care as a subtle but lethal expression of personal and social violence. As Howard Thurman writes “teach us how to respond to the needs of thy children in ways that do not undermine the self, but inspire and enliven the spirit”. Is there someone being ignored? Through many years of wear and tear and toll taking ministry service mostly someone is being ignored and that is “Me”.   Is self negligence a very strong word to use? This negligence seems to be acceptable and an easy camouflage for our society.   Why Acceptable?   Because its most often rewarded with being excepti